Do you ever feel like you have more balls in the air than ever before? Are you struggling to keep it all running smoothly and to keep everybody happy—yourself included?

The reality is there’s only so much you can control. And the more you cling to the idea of having the perfect schedule or the perfect client pitch or the perfect family weekend, the more you will find yourself frustrated, run ragged, and let down.

Feeling this way may be a sign that you need to let go. That’s doesn’t mean you should intentionally drop all of those balls in the air. Rather, it means you should do your very best in any given situation and stop attaching to the outcome.

Non-attachment is an ancient Eastern Buddhist philosophy which teaches that if we learn to let go—particularly of those people and things and situations over which we have no control (so, all of them)—then we’ll be much happier, more peaceful, and much more productive human beings.

And who doesn’t want that?

Of course, it’s easier said than done. So many of us cling to an idea of the way things “should” be—whether in our work, our relationships, or elsewhere—which only causes unnecessary heartache when things inevitably aren’t that way.

But it’s actually easier than you might think to find small, everyday ways to just let go and live better. Here are three that we recommend:

1. Let Yourself Feel It

Anxiety, fear, shame, anticipation. Whatever is you’re feeling about a certain person or situation, let yourself feel it. Sure, this is a post on letting things go, but before you can let them go, you really have to feel them—to acknowledge your stress or your worry before acknowledging that said stress or worry is temporary. Don’t make yourself feel bad for feeling how you feel; just feel it and move forward.

2. Be Grateful

When you can remember what you have to be thankful for, you’re far less likely to worry about what could go wrong. By keeping your thoughts gratitude-focused, you’ll train your mind to focus on the positive, even in the midst of situations you can’t control.

3. Get Present

Remember what is true and real right here and right now. Is it worth worrying about what happened yesterday? Is it productive to fret about what will happen tomorrow? Whether you meditate, practice yoga, or simply stop for a moment and take in your life, center yourself in the present moment and remember that there is nothing you can do about the future and even less you can do about the past … so let it go and focus on what you can do in the here and now.

Most of all, letting go is about your own state of mind. It’s about understanding what you can and cannot control (and letting go of what you can’t). Learning how to let go is crucial to a happy, productive life. If you’re constantly worried about what you can’t control, you won’t have the space to allow for what you can: spending your precious time, energy, and attention on cultivating the work and relationships and life that you value most.

What do you need to let go of to make space for something better? Share your experience in the comments below.

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