Putting yourself first doesn’t mean that everyone else has to lose out on what you have to give. In fact, you’ll have so much more to give if you give to yourself first!

Today, we’re sharing a simple process to help you make self-care your top priority.

1. Invest in your best self.

The first step is to acknowledge that self-care is powerful and needs to be an important part of your life. It’s far from selfish – it’s an investment that you can make now to become your best self later.

Some of us neglect taking care of ourselves because we want to be the best mom or the most dedicated employee. We feel like we just cannot stop to take a time out, as if we’ll get behind or everything will fall apart without us.

But we need to reverse this way of thinking. As for the examples above, taking care of yourself is essential to being a good parent, and balancing your life will enable you to perform at a higher level at work.

Self-care is not a splurge that happens every once in a while when you’re completely drained or just on your birthday. Instead, self-care is a daily practice!

2. Write down your favorite self-care rituals.

Self-care looks different for everybody – what would help you be the best, most refreshed, most energized, healthiest, and happiest version of you?

Try to determine what you need in order to help yourself first. What activities, habits, and people will help you get there? Write these down in your planner or journal to refer back to as your plan out your weeks and days.

3. Ask yourself: What gets in the way?

Try to understand what’s standing in your way. In other words, what is taking priority over you right now?

Take an inventory of where your time, energy, attention, and focus goes first most days. Are there areas of your life where you’re wasting valuable time that could be spent re-energizing you?

Get creative and think of the different ways you can re-focus yourself on yourself. Can you get up a little bit earlier in the day for some quality time with yourself? Can you schedule a manicure while the kids are at soccer practice? Can you block off time every Sunday?

4. Schedule an appointment with you.

Part of living a well-designed life is to align your plans with our priorities. Now that self-care is something you’ve chosen to prioritize, you’ll want to ensure that you’re planning it into your life.

As you map out your months, weeks, and days – set aside time in your planner for self-care. Be specific and write it down to block the time. More importantly, put in your self-care first. Schedule your other obligations around it.

Whether you’re allotting time to exercise every other morning, to read your book for fifteen minutes at lunchtime, or to simply relax after dinnertime each weekday evening, be sure to mark your planner so that you don’t schedule anything else during that time.

5. Disconnect and enjoy!

Now it’s time to make it all happen. When the time comes: Turn off your phone, be present, and enjoy the moments that you have set aside for yourself!